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Whether your are 20+ years into your relationship or just starting out, couples are trying to do more these days then ever before. Our culture elevates coupling and marriage, but offers so little to help people actually manage the many challenges. I specialize in couples working toward deeper connection and intimacy.
Not pursuing couples therapy when there are underlying emotions and issues that are wreaking havoc can create bigger and more serious obstacles to overcome in the future. It’s like a large boulder rolling out of control down a hill. The farther it rolls, the more damage it causes and the harder it is to push it back to the place it belongs.
I treat all romantic or platonic couples queer , straight, poly-amorous, monogamous, CNM, married , or not. I also have experience working with families, friends, co-workers, bands and so on. The therapy is to meet your relationship goals, not any other agenda. Each person brings their own culture to the work which is welcomed with respect.
Clients describe me as down-to-earth, easy to talk to, non-judgmental, funny, engaging and insightful. My style is warm and welcoming. We work fast to improve communication and strengthen connection. The focus of our work is supporting your relationship to function securely so you can both be authentic and fulfilled. Honestly, couples therapy can be really fun and absolutely rewarding.
Conventionally, the term “perinatal” is in reference to a birthing person's status in terms of the weeks preceding and after birth. This definition limits the status to the one person who is pregnant. I see this time of life impacted by the realities of partners, families, culture and the pressures and challenges involved in having children. Whether biologically effected by hormone changes directly or not, anyone transitioning into parenthood can tell you, it can be a time of real strain for relationships.
In my experience, partners are a big part of healing, and they want to be included. I find that difficult topics can sometimes be more effectively addressed in couples therapy than in individual work. For example, I create space to non-judgmentally address sex changes that occur around pregnancy and parenting. With the goal of increasing mutual understanding about the how the attachment dynamics of childhood affects our parenting and roles in the home today. Whether you are able to be pro-active or are already in the thick of it, couples therapy is an investment in protecting your relationship through this intense time of life.
Couples therapy can be a good way to carve some time out of the week to address your relationship and how you may be processing challenges. My background working with people struggling with fertility and loss is an area of expertise I bring to working with couples. The layers of grief and resilience are intertwined and complex, in a way that no one is prepared for. Reaching out for support together can help now, and strengthen your relationship for the challenges that will come ahead as your family evolves.